Conflict Education

Please note: all the components of the programs below are taught in a multilevel context of role-playing, games, and other educational activities that developmentally enhances the child’s ability to comprehend the information in a more multifaceted manner thus increasing the potential for learning. The proper amount of time needs to be given to teach the components of the program. The minimum amount of time per week should be 2 hours. It is obviously better to have more time thus teaching the components of the program are best taught during a holiday or summer time. In other words it is essential that a continuity be developed consistently over time for young people to grasp the essential insights in the program without undo interruption.)

The Character Development Component

12 Ways to Act with Respect

  1. Courtesy: Being well-mannered and considerate
  2. Gentleness: Living with affection and compassion
  3. Honesty: Being truthful
  4. Humility: Acting without self-importance
  5. Compassion: Consideration and sensitivity for another’s well being
  6. Kindness: Caring for others, as you would like to be cared for
  7. Order: Being aware of what creates disorder
  8. Responsibility: Meeting life’s challenges with a brave spirit
  9. Wisdom: Living without fear
  10. Respect: Honoring the dignity of all life
  11. Courage and Commitment: Fighting injustice
  12. Intelligence: Understanding what prevents peace

Rights and Responsibilities

My right: Be able to think free thoughts
My responsibility: Allow others to think freely

My right: Say and do what I want, when and how I want
My responsibility: Consider the effect on others of anything I say or do

My right: Ask questions and receive truthful answers
My responsibility: Listen to other’s questions and respond truthfully

My right: Be honest and open
My responsibility: Be sensitive with my honesty and openness

My right: Have my basic physical needs met
My responsibility: Allow others their basic physical needs

My right: Have my emotional needs met
My responsibility: Care for others emotional needs

My right: Contribute to any decision that affects me
My responsibility: Be respectful of how my decisions affect others

My right: Make mistakes
My responsibility: Allow others their mistakes, and learn from my own

My right: Have privacy; or be with anyone I choose
My responsibility: Tell people close to me where I’m going

My right: Have my own belongings
My responsibility: Take care of my belongings; respect those of others

My right: Feel safe and live free from fear
My responsibility: Talk with someone I trust about any fears I have

My right: Stand up for my rights
My responsibility: Respect the rights of others

The Conflict Education Component*

The approach is a holistic three-level system called The ABC of Conflict Education™. The three levels are: Avoid - Bargain - Control. Each level helps young people keep from being bullied in the following ways:


By understanding what causes people to bully in the way they have been genetically and socially conditioned to think and act either as a bully or a victim, a young person can prevent conflict from arising.


Through the use of verbal Mental Self-Defense Skills, a young person can learn to use words instead of fists to resolve a bullying situation.


A young person who learns how to handle hurt feelings in a positive way is less likely to react in overly aggressive manner when hassled by a bully, and more likely to maintain control. It also helps them to control a potential conflict situation by having the confidence gained through learning humane self-defense skills so they don’t react unnecessarily in a freeze/fight or flight manner. Developing one’s level of understanding, learning verbal mental selfdefense skills, becoming wise in ways to handle hurt feelings all lead to an increase in selfconfidence in tough situations and learning to think quickly and efficiently when necessary.

The Introductory Level Conflict Education Program

12 Ways to Walk Away with Confidence

  1. Make Friends: A bully can be a bully!
  2. Use Humor: This is a time for fun!
  3. Walk Away: Act instead of react!
  4. Use Cleverness: The mind is stronger than the body!
  5. Agree with the Bully: Yield right of way!
  6. Refuse to Fight: Just say no!
  7. Stand Up to the Bully: Let’s see that confidence!
  8. Scream or Yell: Let’s hear that voice!
  9. Use Authority: Help is on the way!
  10. Ignore the Threat: The bully is invisible!
  11. Reason with the Bully: Mind over matter!
  12. Take a Stance: Show your unmistakable intent!

The S.O.S. Self Options Self-Defense System*

12 Ways to Protect Yourself From Harm (a sample)

  1. The Force
  2. The Circle of Awareness
  3. Friend or Foe
  4. Push - Spin-away
  5. Push - Roll away
  6. Push - Back Stance - Yell No!
  7. Grab - Release: One Hand
  8. Grab - Release: Two Hands
  9. Grab - Release: Both Arms
  10. Hit - Low Block
  11. Hit - Middle Block
  12. Hit - High Block

(*The S.0.S. Safe Options Self-Defense System component is a physically effective, legally safe, age appropriate, developmentally sound, non-lethal integrated system of physical and mental martial arts self-defense skills that gives young people the total confidence to cope successfully with being bullied)

The Stranger Awareness Program - for Added Safety

12 Do’s and Don’ts to Sharpen Stranger Awareness

  1. Do Be Aware: Action your feeling that something may be dangerous!
  2. Don’t Talk with a Stranger: Ignore a stranger when the situation doesn’t feel right!
  3. Do Shout “Leave Me Alone!”: Shout “I don’t know you!” to a bothersome stranger!
  4. Don’t Be Afraid to Say “No, Thanks!”: Walk away from a stranger who wants you to follow!
  5. Do Tell a Trusted Adult: Tell a trusted adult if a stranger is bothering you!
  6. Don’t Accept Gifts: Never accept presents from strangers!
  7. Do Tell Adults Where You’re Going: Let parents and teachers know where you are!
  8. Don’t Get into a Stranger’s Car: Never go anywhere with someone you don’t know!
  9. Do Go to a "Safe Zone": Go where you know there’s protection!
  10. Don’t Go Alone into Dangerous Areas: Stay away from deserted houses and dark alleys!
  11. Do Trust Your Gut Feelings: Listen to the voice inside your head!
  12. Don’t Distrust All Strangers

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